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You’re Busted! | Presenting The Real You On Twitter

12/23/2009 - 1:00 pm By Diana Adams

I am quite fascinated with Twitter avatars and how we present ourselves online. As you probably know, our personal brand is wrapped up in our avatar and it truly becomes the way others perceive us.

Since many times we don’t to see each other in person, our avatar is the way people to get to know us and recognize us. If you would like to read an article I wrote about the impact of changing avatars, you can go here: http://retwt.me/xjA2

As a follow up to that article, I would like to take it one step further. I often have friends that send me direct messages that say things like, “I can’t believe I’m still in my pajamas today” or things that specifically refer to how they look. However, as we tweet, people only see us one way, as our avatar.

The best part of this is that in our avatar, we always look good. We never have a bad hair day or spill ketchup on our shirt. Through our avatar, we always present ourselves the way we want others to see us. My question to you is, is this really real? For me personally, I have a “Twitter look” and a “Client look”. In my Twitter look, my hair is messy, I don’t have on any makeup and I’m usually dressed in sweats. In my client look, I am wearing a suit, very high heels and a lot of makeup.

Here is the contrast below. The first picture is my Twitter look, the second picture is my Twitter avatar which is more like my Client look.

Since we are building such strong bonds with our friends online, are we being somewhat dishonest by not showing our “true selves” more often? In real life, we don’t always look great like our avatar. In real life, sometimes we have bad hair days and sometimes we don’t look our best.

When it’s all said and done, since it is not practical to change our avatar everyday to change with our look and our mood, I suppose we will all just have two different personas. Maybe that is where the world is headed with social media. We will always present ourselves to the world in two different ways, one online persona and one offline persona.

I still agree with @ShellyKramer though, it is best to use an avatar that shows the “real you” because that honesty is the basis for starting a real friendship with someone, online or offline.

This video below was tweeted by our friend; @Alyssa_Milano and it show the transformation of a “regular woman” into a supermodel. It is a profound video to watch and really hits home on this topic.

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Author: Diana Adams

By day, Diana is the CEO/owner of Adams Consulting Group, Inc, a technology services and business solutions consultancy firm serving the specific needs of its clients in advertising and public relations. By night, she lives and breathes by writing. After publishing a small cookbook last year, she is now working on her new masterpiece, scheduled for publishing next year. “I could write all night long and not get tired of it. I think that is when you know you’ve tapped into a true passion. Whatever that thing may be, if you could do it all day or night long, lose track of time, ‘wake up’ ten hours later, and still thirst for more, that is a passion, and I feel like I’ve found that in my writing.” Diana also spends many hours each week assisting the homeless men and women in Atlanta. You can find her on Twitter at @adamsconsulting.


45 Comments

Jon Pear (a.k.a. NeuroAster)

December 28th, 2009

THIS NEWS BULLETIN JUST IN: I am currently scratching my left armpit #WhatAreYouDoing

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Diana Adams Reply:

What am I doing? I’m laughing at your goofy comment. hahaha!!

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Jon Pear (a.k.a. NeuroAster) Reply:

Hey when it comes to self-disclosure, I have absolutely NO shame #smilesandhugs

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Diana Adams Reply:

Hey, I’m right there with you! LOL

Itamar Kestenbaum

December 28th, 2009

Well, you know there’s always the ‘business me’, the ‘PR me’, the ‘morning-before-coffee me.’ If only there were a place to put all of those avatars at once – so people could get a true sense of what I look like…

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Diana Adams Reply:

I totally know what you mean, there’s also the:

‘I’m annoyed me’
‘get out of my way I’m in a hurry me’
‘it’s way to early in the morning to be awake me’ – this last one comes complete with dark circles around the eyes. Haha!!

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Itamar Kestenabum Reply:

Definitely!
My ‘get out of my way I’m in a hurry me’ comes with extra special ninja action!

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Diana Adams Reply:

OMG, I can’t stop laughing because there is so much truth in that statement. Haha!!

@udeme Reply:

“..extra special ninja action” – Classic!

trinity rayne

December 28th, 2009

Love the post diana!although I do believe its important to put your best face forward,I’m guilty of having all types of avatars on my twitter( @trinityrayne )like right now I have a pic that my 4yrold took with her daddy’s bb!lol but I feel as if that let’s ppl know I’m real.we all have “off” days I just twitpic mine!lol

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Diana Adams Reply:

It’s so nice to get a comment from you! Thank you! I have been following you on Twitter for so long it seems. Yeah, you are keeping it real girl. Kudos to you and your 4 year old. You are teaching her right. LOL

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trinity rayne

December 28th, 2009

Yes ma’am!and imma do better with leaving comments I usually bookmark the pages yall put out and read em during my often bouts of insomnia or bus commutes(which ever one comes first)lol

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up2sumptin

December 28th, 2009

Not everyone is comfortable having strangers see their picture. I am famous in my family for not wanting my picture to be taken. I hate it with a passion and won’t any pictures that I am in. I think we are too quick to judge (not saying you are but speaking in general terms) people by a stupid picture. Like that really tells you if a person is kind hearted or trustworthy. Heck, I’m taking it on faith that your avatar is really you and not something you snagged off the internet ;) LOL. j/k poor humor attempt.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Haha! I can 100% understand what you are saying. And, especially when those accounts (obviously spam) show up in our followers list with different names all having the same picture, it’s easy to start questioning everyone about that. LOL

I guess we just have to use the same gut feeling and common sense when deciding whether or not to trust someone online as we do offline.

Thank you so much for your comment, as always, I really appreciate it. :)

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Jim Gray

December 28th, 2009

i always wear a cap of some sort…in fact i’ve been recognized at conferences because i wear my avatar cap (wool Kango cap)
when i have face2face meetings via webcam i always hear “i didn’t recognize you without your cap”

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Diana Adams Reply:

That is now what people recognize as your personal brand. Nice! That’s a great one! In my opinion, that would make a great blog post topic.

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Itamar Kestenbaum Reply:

Wow, Jim! That’s really inventive! I’ll keep that in mind for next time I use a different avatar.

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Itamar Kestenbaum

December 28th, 2009

By the way,
I use this avatar on almost everything because it makes me look really silly. I think that helps people let their guard down!

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Molly Reply:

You look as though you are in the middle of saying, “What?” Very approachable and real, FWIW. Enjoy your day! Best, M.

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Your Name

December 28th, 2009

When I use a “real me” photo as my avatar on my SN sites (twitter, facebook, etc.) I notice two things: 1-people who don’t know me, don’t believe it’s me. 2-I get lost in the crowd. (where’s the “creating the best avatar photo” article?)

My current avatar has shown to be more unique and recognizable in a sea of avatars/icons. While not 100% accurate of my current “look”, it’s still me, so I figure that counts, right? :)

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SherwinRocks Reply:

lol. i forgot to enter my name. *duh*

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Diana Adams Reply:

Yep, if you feel good about it, that is really all that matters. It is quite unique, that’s for sure! LOL I like it. :)

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Steven Moore

December 28th, 2009

Sounds like a new twitter app needs to be developed the live avatar you look into your webcam and it streams it into all of your social graphs in real time. Then you will be the real “you” all the time…
:-) great post…

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Diana Adams Reply:

Hey, there is your million dollar idea!! LOL

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Bekki Buenviaje

December 28th, 2009

I like your “twitter” look! You don’t even look like the same person as your client look! My twitter avatar probably pretty much represents me, I think. It’s hard for me to take a photo that doesn’t look like me. Even if I tried, my right eye would probably droop or that big vein in my forehead would stand out, so I don’t even try to not look like me.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Bekki!! I have missed you! Thank you for for your comment. I hope you are well. As usual, you are so funny. :)

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Claire Boyles

December 28th, 2009

Really interesting & thought provoking, I don’t change my twitter avatar that often- actually I’ve had 2 different avatars all year, and the latest one I only changed to be in the festive spirit. (It’s a photo that was taken of me wearing a Santa hat on Christmas day, the only make up I have on is some mascara)

Here’s the thing, I want to be seen in my best light for my avatar, and sure there’s a difference between the way I look when I’m relaxed in the office, to when I’m out meeting clients. But often there’s not that much difference, because often I dress for myself as I would dress for my clients. (I find I’m more focused & productive that way)

I love the little video, I’ve never been big into make-up, I’m not a girly-girl but I do wear it, most days I’ll put a little mascara on, and when I’m going out for an evening I’ll go way out and add some glittery eyeshadow too! :)

My point is that there’s not THAT much difference between my “client” image of me, and me- and I like it like that.

I love dressing up, I love wearing suits, and I love being in comfortable clothes, they are all me. Clients usually like to see the “me” that is most like how they’d like to be seen. At least initially, when they get to know me they appreciate that, just like them I’m human too & I have my off days, and having off days doesn’t mean that I’m not good at what I do, or that I fail to do what I need to.

So like you I believe honesty is the best way to build relationships & that’s what I love about Twitter- the ease with which I can connect with so many like minded people. I hope my present avatar reflects the real me.

I hope the pictures I use of me on the internet reflect an honest view of me, even if they’re not taken on my off days ;)

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Diana Adams Reply:

Claire,

Thank you for your insight. It sounds like you have it all sorted out and I’ve enjoyed getting to know you while reading your comment. I wish your picture showed up here, next to your comment, so I could see you. LOL

Diana

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Claire Boyles Reply:

Hi Diana,

I’d love my pic to show up here- how do I do that? In the meantime, you can see it on my twitter account:

http://www.twitter.com/ClaireBoyles :)

Another thing I’ve realised is that I have a twitter background which includes a photo- so people do see 2 different perspectives of me- one on the background, one on my avatar!

Looking forward to following your tweets

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Claire Boyles Reply:

actually, what IS your twitter account? Thought it’d be easy to find you… but apparently not! :(

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Diana Adams Reply:

So glad you finally found me, my username is above in the author bio. I followed you back. YAY! ~hugs~

Meryl K Evans

December 29th, 2009

I use the same darned photo everywhere as my business and personal side of me is blurred. But I do post “real” me in some places… just not as my avatar. Diana, I like both of your pics.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Thank you, Meryl, I really appreciate your comment. Thank you for visiting our blog! xxoo

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zane aveton

December 30th, 2009

That is why I created the #unavatar Asking my followers to post real pics of themselves enjoying their day as “I want to see you, enjoying your day, in the moment & what you really look like doing it! It’s been a while since I enforced/encouraged it….gonna bring it back :)

@Zaneology

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J.W.

January 5th, 2010

Hey, I gave @CindyCrawford that video in Oct-Nov LOL
My Avitar is me, I just don’t have many pictures of me and it is doing something that I like doing.

@only1one

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Diana Adams Reply:

You are so darn funny – always. ;)

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Peter Romando

January 5th, 2010

Heck, I am just a bunch of mixed greens and vegetables…they did soak me in water before they took the photo. :)
@VmealsBoston

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Diana Adams Reply:

Hey, I like vegetables, so I just followed you on Twitter. LOL

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Claire Boyles

January 5th, 2010

I’m laughing quietly to myself because since I commented here, I’ve changed my avatar again! :)

I guess I am keeping it current- the one I have now is of me with a big grin on my face at the New Years Eve party on the beach on the tropical Island I’m living on at the moment :)

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Five for Friday 1.08.09

January 8th, 2010

[...] You’re Busted – This is a very interesting post, especially since social media also shows off our personal vanity. What does your avatar say about you? Mine (back by popular demand) is in a scuba helmet – fun, quasi-secretive and random. Check out the video from Dove at the end of the post. [...]

Josh R.

January 16th, 2010

As a professional photographer I spend a lot of time looking at and thinking about photography. I have been studying avatars a bit lately and I think there is a lot missing from this discussion.

You need to consider how your avatar is viewed. It’s typically seen as a tiny little square in a long list of other tiny little squares. You should also think about how people interact with photo’s a little. So what does that mean? It means that you need to stand out and people need to be able to see your eyes. The best twitter avatars have bright colors, large eyes, and lots of eye contact. So when I am scrolling down the color jumps out and because people react to eye contact you need to make it even when the picture is tiny.

Beyond that I wholeheartedly disagree that looking real means looking bad. Direct on camera flash with distracting elements in the frame and fluorescent overheads is no one’s best look. It doesn’t make you look more “real” it just makes you look bad. People are more likely to trust you if your look fits your brand and you look good. Social media is all about trust.

So don’t use a web cam, look to minimize distracting elements in the frame, make sure your eyes are large in the frame and have light in them, and make sure you look good. Notice that none of that says go hire a top photographer for a dove campaign level beauty shot. There are plenty of ways to take good pictures on your own and if you don’t think that your going to be able to do it then hire somebody and make sure you work with them to stay real and project your brand.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Wow, Josh, thank you for your professional advice. Your insight really helped me and I know it will help a lot of other people too. Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment!

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Josh R. Reply:

It’s something I have really been thinking about. I think it’s an interesting look into how people feel about photography and how they feel about their own image. Glad to have helped.

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Tom Zucker-Scharff

April 14th, 2010

Diana,

Great article! I guess I have a few different looks (I like a fifteen year old picture of myself LOL). But I also have been doing Daily Mugshot and if someone looks they can see what I look like each day (www.dailymugshot.com/tczucker).

@cyberdad

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totomix

June 20th, 2010

You post awsome posts. Bookmarked !

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