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7 Traits Of A Good Twitter Friend

12/05/2009 - 5:00 am By Diana Adams

My friendships on Twitter are very sacred to me. It’s interesting though because we measure the value of an online friend much differently than we do an offline friend. Things that might be acceptable for one might not be okay for another.

In my world, these two universes seem to collide often since I’m in contact with both groups of people each day, sometimes at the same time. I hear people talk about the ROI for social media, but how do you place a ROI value on Twitter friends? You can’t. They are very special, and in my opinion, priceless.

A very close Twitter friend of mine once told me that the reason people can become so close online (Twitter, wave, etc…) is because since we only have text to communicate, we have to be more specific and go deeper into topics in order to really understand each other. Many times, we may skip the real stuff and just small talk with offline friends since we see them so often. I agree with this, although, for some people, I can see the exact opposite might be true. So, what makes a good Twitter friend?

Here are my top 7 traits of a good Twitter friend:

A good Twitter friend will always say hello, even when he is busy tweeting others.

A good Twitter friend will RT even your mediocre tweets, because in her eyes, all your tweets are good ones.

A good Twitter friend will never embarrass you or make you feel uncomfortable on the public timeline.

A good Twitter friend will stay on Twitter late at night, even when he is tired, just to keep you company.

A good Twitter friend will always take your side if there is ever a conflict with another tweep.

A good Twitter friend will not expect a thank you for every RT and not expect an instant response to her tweets.
She accepts you for who you are.

A good Twitter friend will make you feel so warm and fuzzy that
you forget that you have never met him in person.

How many good Twitter friends do you have? Send them a link to this article and take a moment today to thank them for being good Twitter friends because just like other friends in our life, they are truly a gift.

I would like to give photo credit to http://www.flickr.com/photos/64148767@N00/ for the great friendship picture above and I would like to thank http://www.flickr.com/photos/rosauraochoa for the Twitter sand picture which is making me want to tweet on the beach. You both rock!

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Author: Diana Adams

By day, Diana is the CEO/owner of Adams Consulting Group, Inc, a technology services and business solutions consultancy firm serving the specific needs of its clients in advertising and public relations. By night, she lives and breathes by writing. After publishing a small cookbook last year, she is now working on her new masterpiece, scheduled for publishing next year. “I could write all night long and not get tired of it. I think that is when you know you’ve tapped into a true passion. Whatever that thing may be, if you could do it all day or night long, lose track of time, ‘wake up’ ten hours later, and still thirst for more, that is a passion, and I feel like I’ve found that in my writing.” Diana also spends many hours each week assisting the homeless men and women in Atlanta. You can find her on Twitter at @adamsconsulting.


74 Comments

Trish McFarlane

December 5th, 2009

I like this post and have not seen one like it yet. I agree that the tweeps you become closest with on Twitter are very special and for all of the reasons you mention above. I’d add that for me, those people are also the ones that have crossed over into “real life” friendships too. For me, once I find that I consider someone a friend on Twitter, I want to meet them. I’ve met 50 or so of my tweeps now and we are even closer now. We truly got to know each other better because we tweet about our views on work, family, politics, etc. Twitter is a great way to network, especially if you are a parent and cannot physically get to many “networking” events in person. Great post. Can’t wait to read more.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Trish,

Thank you very much! Wow, you’ve met 50 Twitter friends? That is amazing. I have only met 1 Twitter friend, but one of my goals for 2010 is to meet many more!

Best wishes,

Diana

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Trish McFarlane Reply:

It’s crazy, I know. I work in Human Resources so I began to go to more conferences and meet them in person. Now, they are like my friends and colleagues. I’ve collaborated with some of them too. Four of us even created an “un-conference” for HR professionals and brought more HR tweeps together last month. http://hrevolution.wetpaint.com. I definitely encourage you to meet your tweeps if you can. It is SO worth it.
p.s. Just followed you on Twitter, so now we’re tweeps too. :-)

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Diana Adams Reply:

Awesome! I have to go follow you back right now. LOL

James Ball

December 5th, 2009

I’ve not seen a post quite like this one either. I think a lot about my Twitter friends, and what they mean to me personally, and to my business. You describe perfectly some of the qualities that I appreciate in these people. This quaint and timely post now bookmarked forever…rushing out now to tweet it to my friends!

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Diana Adams Reply:

James,

Thank you. You have no idea how much I appreciate your words. It’s funny because I still meet people who think Twitter “isn’t real” and I feel bad for them because they are truly missing out on the magic.

Very Sincerely,
Diana

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Bill M Godwin

December 5th, 2009

This was a very meaningful post and I’m Thankful for my twitter friend that retweeted it

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Misty Belardo

December 5th, 2009

This is a very special post for me as I can truly relate. My Twitter friends are very dear to me, sad sometimes that some don’t understand me because they I guess have not experienced what I have. The conversations maybe 140 characters at a time but they are heart felt.

I love the way you said that we stick with each other, there are so many instances already that I have experienced this and I feel so blessed to have known and have become close to so many.

If not for Twitter, I would have not met you my BFF and I am thankful for you everyday!! :D

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Diana Adams Reply:

I am very thankful for you every day too. Thank you for being such a wonderful friend. I am looking forward to the day when we can meet in person. I have a feeling with or without Twitter, you will be in my life for many many years to come. I love you babe!!!

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Kimba Green

December 5th, 2009

What can I possible say that hasn’t already been said and said well. Thank you!

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Richard Darell

December 5th, 2009

Great list Diana! I think it’s nicely decribed and one should really think about the way we treat our friends as well. Great article!

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Cynthia Fox-Giddens Reply:

I enjoyed reading the list and was shaking my head in agreement. I am new to Twitter and have met some great friends. I find myself looking forward to their tweets. I plan to follow you to keep up with other great posts like this one.

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ACruz

December 5th, 2009

I think someone of the qualities you mentioned should apply to non-Twitter friend as well. I haven’t realize until I read your post that the people I communicate with on Twitter can be consider as my friends. I do consider my “offline” friends as my friends on Twitter, but I guess I should include those who I communicate with on Twitter on that list. With that knowledge I’ll try to be a better Twitter friend.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Yes, our Twitter friends are also friends, just a different kind of friend, right? The fact that you are considering the possibilities, I think you must already be a good Twitter friend. :)

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Your Name

December 6th, 2009

Good post. In some cases, one can find themselves blocked as a spammer when trying to network on Twitter, but it’s good to be able to connect there.

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jase193

December 6th, 2009

Great article Diana, like the way you mix both genders in, very PC ..lol. Sadly I doubt I will ever meet my twitter friends in person as they are all over the world, but if twitter (and others) did not exist we would never have had the opportunity to share a part of our lives. The world is not so big now, itls great to have world wide friends. Xx

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December 6th, 2009

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Laura Walker

December 6th, 2009

This article (and comments) make my heart happy! I have such great friends on twitter, people from all over the world some I have lots in common with others not so much but interact with all and learn something new every single day! I am so grateful for all of my twit-friends they have got me through a lot these past few months and they don’t even know it :)

This article is a reflection of you Diana and the friendship you share with others! Thank you!

Laura. (@laurawalker86)

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Ross Simmonds

December 6th, 2009

Great post Diana! – This post and the comments between you and Misty show exactly what twitter is all about. Making real relationships that you can truly cherish and hold close to your heart.

I’d add that another trait of a good friend on twitter is that friend who sends you the random follow Friday even though you were to busy to send out a couple tweets for 48hrs.

Keep up the great posts! – Loved this.

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sno_buny

December 7th, 2009

Dear Diana, Through Twitter My dear friend @mountaingrace1 and I found each other, she said she had been searching for me for 10 years. You see, we have similar health histories which are not by any means common. To find someone that can completely relate to what you are saying is priceless, truly. Her friendship means the world to me and I grew to feel a kinship and deep love for my twitter friend that is unique. I really enjoyed the post and am going to forward it to her right away!!

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Diana Adams Reply:

Wow. This story illustrates the true magic of Twitter. It was meant to be that you find each other. Thank you for sharing a little piece of your heart with us. Big hugs to you and @mountaingrace1.

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Marna Friedman

December 8th, 2009

Diana,
Thank you so much for this article. I have met many friends through Twitter and in person at “tweetups”. It is such a great way to build relationships and community. I agree with your 7 traits and hope that it resonates with many more. Thanks again.
Marna

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Diana Adams Reply:

Thank you, Marna. You are very welcome! I’m so happy that you enjoyed this article. I’ve never been to a tweetup before, but I want to go to one soon.

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Kat Caverly

December 8th, 2009

FABU post Diane!

I am a natural big city paranoid and I am blown away that it is possible to develop real friendships in an little as a few months on Twitter.

I am a very friendly individual whose business it is to go up to complete strangers and start conversations, silly ones at that. So tweeting was natural to me. However I did not expect to be able to get to know people faster, deeper and have more engagement than offline.

The respect and positivity of the stream continues to knock my socks off, so let me start by saying that I hope to get to know YOU better in 2010.

Thanks for this and the many wonderful articles you write. These are awesome gifts to the world!

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Diana Adams Reply:

Kat,

Thank you very much. Wow, I appreciate your words more than you know. I’m so glad you enjoyed this post. My Twitter friends are very special to me, and I hope to know you better in 2010 also!

Best Wishes,

Diana

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Sourav Ghosh

December 8th, 2009

Really mind blowing post Diana. Twitter is really special for me too. I can’t even imagine life without Twitter, Twitter really helped me to live my best life, and I had written a blog post on this too. (http://www.yourdreammovement.co.cc/2009/11/how-twitter-helps-me-to-live-my-best.html)Honestly for the first time I found someone else writing about Twitter from this angle. I pray to God that in the coming days, Twitter will bring all the humanity together and will make this world a better ]place to live.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Sourav,

Thank you for your comment. We are like one big family on Twitter. I, like you, cannot imagine my life without Twitter either.

Hugs,

Diana

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Lizette Pirtle

December 9th, 2009

Hi Diana, a dear Twitter friend sent me a link to your post and I feel compelled to leave a comment to let you know how much I like it.

I started Tweeting back in May for business purposes and had no idea that I would get such a gift as meeting so many wonderful people from all over the world. I feel so blessed with my Twitter friends and you have described them very well.

I do believe that the world is becoming a better place due to all the positive energy and interactions that take place through Twitter.

Great post!

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Diana Adams Reply:

Lizette,

Thank you very much!!!

Diana

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tess martin-fox

December 9th, 2009

twitter is an alternate reality. as are many other forms of communication where peeps have a chance to meet. stripped of the physical judgments we make immediately upon seeing someone in person, twitter’s forum is conducive to getting to the heart of things quickly. the absence of other obstacles that interfere with rapid friendship allow true substantive interaction to occur.
tweeps have many agendas. those that come to meet, greet, hug & hold other dear ones will find each other. those that come to sell will hopefully find those that come to buy. multitudes of needs can be met.
i came to pour out love with no attachments to the outcome. in return i have received a bounty of the finest & grandest peeps i’ve ever known. my blessings are rich and i have pure thanx for all i interact with by loving them even more after reading this inspirational article. thanx, Diana.

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Diana Adams Reply:

Tess,

You brought up a point that I haven’t thought of before. On Twitter, there are no physical judgments based upon seeing someone in person. Wow, very cool!

Thanks for sharing.

Diana

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Kristen

December 9th, 2009

I couldn’t agree more with this post. I’ve had tweeps stay up with me and calm me down after night terrors. I’ve had them send me stuff from NY and England. I’m building real-world friendships and a network that is priceless. When you build trust with people via twitter, it sticks. More so than other networks, I’ve found. My friends are my family and my family is global. We need to be cautious, yes. Yet we also need to hone our instincts and listen to them. Twitter makes it very easy to see who’s real and who’s not in a broad context. Thank you for writing this. :D

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Diana Adams Reply:

Kristen,

I agree with you 100%. You’ve phrased this so well. “My friends are my family and my family is global” – I love that!

Thank you for sharing.

Diana

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Tom Morris

December 9th, 2009

I don’t agree with some of these – I’ve put up a response explaining why sometimes being a good friend involves going against your friend in a conflict.

http://tommorris.org/blog/2009/12/10#When:02:39:08

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Krystyn

December 11th, 2009

How did I miss this?? :) I feel fortunate to have you as my twitter friend. You’re not just fun, sweet, cool and beautiful, you’re a wonderful role-model who spreads joy throughout the twittersphere w/a rockstar killer smile and these warm, fuzzy bit rebels articles.

Love the sand picture!! :)

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Diana Adams Reply:

Krys,

I’m soooo glad I met you. I’m fun? Hmmm… have you looked in the mirror lately? Haha! You are a blast.

Everything you said above.. DITTO! lol

Love you babe,

Diana

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Kim

December 11th, 2009

Aw, this post makes me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside.

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Kitty

December 11th, 2009

Nothing like feeling warm and fuzzy! Good when you can have warm and fuzzy Twitter friends and cool tweets!

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Wolfie Rankin

December 13th, 2009

I really don’t understand the RL/Online thing, people act as though the internet is somehow pure fantasy, like it’s not just the phone system connected to a computer, and this way of thinking should end. If you rang your boss and told him there he could put his job while using the phone then you know it’s over but would you send an e-mail of the same kind then turn up on Monday saying that since it was only online stuff that somehow it wasn’t valid, and you and he would laugh it off? I’ve met most of my friends online. I’m a shy person who would almost never speak to someone, but online I’m less shy and love a good conversation. as a result, I’ve gone out with friends many times.

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@MadKeet

December 15th, 2009

Eloquent as ever D.
Thanks for telling me to go to http://www.gravator.com to register so i can get my ugly mug out there with ALL comments ALL over the place, now thats a true twitter fiend or does The Man still call it accomplaice, not sure on that. too late now though.
Thanks for all the help, once again. :Q)

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LeJon Ratchford

December 16th, 2009

Very good post.

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Steven Diamond

December 18th, 2009

I like this article. I only wish more people using Twitter would read it. :)

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Annielicious14

December 20th, 2009

those are all so true! I sometimes forget that I don’t know 90% of these people! But I seem to have lucked out and have met some really lovely ones. Actually going to get together with a few in the new year! Thanks for this!.

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@Zaneology

December 21st, 2009

I appreciate this post :)

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Tim Flaherty

December 21st, 2009

I’m blessed to learn new things outside of my orbit from my Twitter Friends…breaks my pattern in a positive way

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Brent ~ the roseman

February 10th, 2010

Hello Diana, I think of you as a good twitter friend, and try to be one in return. Good article! Thanks again, Diana (hey the Thank you Diana hotkey works!) LOL :)

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faryl

February 11th, 2010

Love this! Especially the part about thanking for a RT/responsiveness. I’m flaky & forgetful and often don’t check my timeline for a couple days at a time – but I love my Twitter friends.

I don’t expect them to thank me for my RTs so hope they don’t hold it against me when I may not get to thank them for theirs!

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Stu Williams

February 11th, 2010

I really do feel warm and fuzzy with you being my Twitter friend! With understanding my place in the Twitterverse I feel I have met you but alas, I know that is not true. I really do love the list and of course everybody who reads it is coming up with others to add. You should have a #whatmakesatwitterfriend list. Mmmm…. One of mine… To have someone, who gets only enough rest to stay perky and beautiful, give valuable time to a person she has never met; making that person feel like number one.

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Barryck Rifki

March 14th, 2010

Yes ma’am you can count on me since i called you “big sister”. and hey you said “She accepts you for who you are.” Its a special female friends huh? lol

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March 15th, 2010

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Yash Ved

March 29th, 2010

Excellent article Diana! Keep up the good work:)

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@bonniessquires

April 16th, 2010

Hello Diana

I’m so glad to found this post.
I can’t agree more with you on these
7 points of friendship.

Twitter has opened so many doors for
me. Not only in finding friendship but
all so business partners.

My family can’t understand how you can
become such close friends of some one
who online and you never met but i know
it can happen. I’ve meant allot threw twitter
and I’m so glad I met you and you are my friend.

Bonnie

http://twitter.com/bonniessquires

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Heather O

May 29th, 2010

I did NOT expect to meet so many great folks, both on the local level and global, and I am so glad I did. Even after a long break, checking back into Twitter, it’s like we pick up right where we left off. Even if just a small duration that I can swim in the twitter waters, it’s always worthwhile and rewarding with the folks I interact with and I am blessed to know whether virtually, IRL or both. Great post D, as always! Have a wonderful weekend sweet and hard working lady. :-)

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Shelly Kramer

May 29th, 2010

A great read, Diana. And so true, on every level. You are a gem that I would not have known, but for Twitter. As are many commentors here. I am thankful for you, and all of my friends, either met via Twitter or somewhere else online, on a daily basis. Every one of them (and you) make my life better simply by being a part of it.

Shelly Kramer
@shellykramer
http://v3im.com

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Anne Egros

July 7th, 2010

Diana,
It was a pleasure to read this post and as many people said I did not see it before. It gives hope to people who are starters on social networking. Your list are probably the best advices on Twitter I have ever seen even from social media gurus. It is talking directly to my heart. THANK YOU
@AnneEgros

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