5 Reasons To Smile When You Get A Negative Blog Comment

What a wonderful post! I really enjoyed this part:

“I realized from those experiences that I cannot control what someone writes, but I can control how I react to it.”

So true. Shared with my network, thanks!

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Thank you Barbara! I appreciate that comment. That was one of my favorite sentences too.

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This post sucks! What are you thinking?!?

Just kidding. I love your approach and positive energy that oozes from all of your writing, Diana. And you’re absolutely right. Positive or negative comments mean that at least someone is paying attention and taking the time to read, even if they disagree. Controversy is always great publicity too!

And just to set the record straight, if anyone disagrees with you, they are just plain wrong.

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Brian,

That comment is exactly why you are one of my closest friends on Twitter. Thank you for always being so supportive.

Everyone – follow this man, you can thank me later. LOL – he is @bkmacdaddy and he sends the MOST USEFUL tweets plus he is a genunine sweetheart. He has an amazing blog too.

Thank you for being you Brian.

Diana

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Smile because what you’re saying is starting a conversation and you have an opportunity to hear another opinion in this wild world of online communication. Keep up the good work

I’m just checking this blog out for the first time, but you’ve sparked my interest to take a look around. I do follow you on Twitter and have found your tweets useful as well. Thanks for writing such an encouraging post.

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Hello Meredith!

Thank you for visiting our blog. All the writers appreciate that. Thank you for your comment too! You are right, it’s all about starting a conversation, right?

Diana

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So, here’s your negative blog comment for this one. Love the text, but not the graphic. Maybe it gets one of your points across, but it distracts from the total effect. I almost didn’t read when I saw the picture.

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Lee Hall Reply:
August 15th, 2010 at 11:03 pm

I don’t love the graphic either. I do love the text, especially: “Smile because you are a person that is living life the to the fullest and being positive, not a person who is leaving nasty comments on someone’s blog and hiding behind keywords instead of using a real name.” Ain’t that the truth? And I might quote that some time. No shortage of occasions…

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Great article as always
Love the way you put this… “reached a point when I knew I had to put my big girl pants on and deal with it, or else I’d never experience the personal development.”

Absolutely true! Trying furiously to come up with good content for my blog and get some readership. It all takes time I know – but keep reminding myself to keep my big pants on and keep at it … and did receive a negative comment once – well sort of a backhanded compliment… about how they hoped to see more interesting content but keep up the good work.. i felt like crying! but reminded myself that it is a push to be better!

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Ohhhh…. Richelle, I know exactly how you feel. I have cried many times over negative comments on my posts. I can tell you this though, they only make you stronger and tougher, which is a good thing, right?

Keep at it. The only way to fail is to quit, and you certainly don’t sound like a quitter to me! Go for it girl, give it all you’ve got and I promise you, you will have a completely different opinion in a few months from now! xxoo

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Another great post Diana. Every time we blog…well, this is the Internet, so we’re exposing ourselves to the big (scary) world of the world wide web. Anyone’s free to leave their opinion on a posting so we have to be prepared for ANYthing to happen… BUT I’ve also noticed that a lot of people who comment on blogs and online articles have a real anger management problem. It’s almost like they’re crawling through the Net specifically to find their “next victim” in order to humiliate them publicly. In other words, they are bullies, incapable of saying anything positive, not even keeping their mouths shut. And bullies are cowards, people who are unhappy with themselves, have issues of self-esteem or confidence, just very very miserable people.

You can disagree with someone’s article/blog without being offensive. I do welcome opinions different from mine but I’ll only take it on board if it was expressed in a respectful manner. Being abusive, derisive, threatening, etc is not acceptable, unless the original post itself was disrespectful, in which case, we can say “it was asking for it”…lol

However, even knowing all that, it’s still hard to take it all with a sense of humour, isn’t it, so it’s lovely that you wrote this blog. Thank you, Di. Let’s all SMILE and not let the b**t***s get us down. lol

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Thanks Diana for those words! Makes me feel a whole lot better!! I will certainly keep at it I ain’t no quitter!! hahah

… channeling finding nemo’s dory – just keep on swimming keep on swimming! Thanks again and awesome content!

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I’m glad to see that you’re not allowing others to invalidate you through opinion.

It’s all subjective.

No one can ever invalidate you anyway. Only you can invalidate yourself – and your mind will tell you that it was someone else that did it.

I guess it’s easy to believe it though right? We’ve all been there and we go back for sheer curiosity. I went back tonight. I got lost, I admit.

Always nice to see posts like this that remind us of where we stand in relation to each other – on the same line right.

P.S. Brian you stole my damn line

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Smile, because the person actually took the time to write the negative comment.

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Barryck Rifki Reply:
March 23rd, 2010 at 5:54 pm

True!

“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him” Unknown #quote (my twitter torrents are acting now LOL)

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@Tsahi Levent-Levi I like that line “Smile, because the person actually took the time to write the negative comment”. Good one.

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“Smile because the negative comment that person left is not a reflection of you and what you’ve written.”

Never that of that one before… but that’s really true. There’s nothing bad about what you’ve done, someone just decided to be a jerk.

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Hi Diana,
Great post, really wonderful and you made me smile, thank you! I haven’t been blogging long, I worked for a Caribbean island newspaper, a weekly that went daily and yes, you get used to it when someone says every once in a while, I didn’t like your article. I remember when my later Father’s publisher carefully explained to me that gossip, good or bad, means that you are worth being talked about…its taken me years to understand this and let it go..everyone has their free will and choice! best vic

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There just isn’t any pleasing some people. The trick is to stop trying. True….. Superb writeup dear…….:)

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There just isn’t any pleasing some people. The trick is to stop trying. True….. Superb writeup dear…….:) Positivity comes from negativity…….:)

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I get no negative comment:)

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Smile because you’ve written something so profound, you were able to touch something inside someone else’s head.
You caused them to think first of all, react, then feel an emotion so strong, they had to write a negative comment.

When we leave our personal space to blog publicly, we invite people to ‘feel’ about what we write. The important thing is that they feel, not *what* they feel. Negative or positive responses, we’ve achieved our goal when they actually do respond to us.

Great post.

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I loved this post. Smile, because it enables writing posts like this to make other people smile!

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Wht a wonderful read Diana!

There’s an old saying in show biz, it doesn’t matter what they say as long as they spell your name right!

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All good points! Nice article!

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Thanks so much for this refreshingly-unpretentious-post. It’s so common for bloggers to write as if they are “above it” or “too cool for school.” Nice to read such a humble and relate-able article, lacking any of that nonsense. Very brave and kind of you to share this uplifting message and offer encouragement to fellow bloggers. Have a super day!

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Dear Lauren,

You made my day with your comment. Thank you very much for that. I appreciate it more than you know.

Best Wishes,
Diana Adams

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Okay, so this was the biggest waste of time I’ve had today.

Just kidding.

I can’t imagine anyone being mean to you Diana.

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This post is so inspiring! It has a positive air within. Smile even in the face of the negativity! That’s just helping you to be better in the times of crisis!

Cheers!

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Thanks for this post. Helpful, positive and a breath of fresh air. A good reminder for all of us bloggers.

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What I love about this article is you can use these things in life too! like you say there is just no pleasing some people and in life/work/relationships you will come accross people that are simply rude for no reason. Sometimes when I read the negative comments I feel like crying so I have no idea what you go through lol! Sometimes I just want to scream abuse back but then I think, no and focus on the good comments, they far outweigh the bad!

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I’ve found that negative comments stir things up. Then more and more people comment on that particular post. So when I see a negative comment I smile, because I know more good comments will follow. Thanks for sharing your emotional past with us Diana

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Another amazing post, Diana! I simply love your writing!

One more thing I’d like to add is:

There are two types of negative comments. One is constructive and the other one is insult.

So when I get an insult, I just ignore it and smile .

And when I get constructive negative comments, which are comments that give corrections and suggestions, I thank the author for taking the time to write it and follow the suggestion if necessary.

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Nice motivational and uplifting post – thank you! Bloggers used to delete comments they don’t like. Now there is a shift. It’s “If you poured water over me IN MY BLOG, don’t expect free publicity for your URL.”

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I really appreciate this advice.
Many thanks for the encouragement.

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Wow, Diana,

I think this is what my problem is:
1. not sure what to write
2. negative feedback, I can take constructive
criticism, but I’m afraid of it sometimes, eveyone wants everyone to like them, but that surely doesn’t happen anywhere, online, at work, at school, period.. I was always a great writer in college just not sure of myself anymore. need to get my groove on again. lol
Thanks, this is why I save all you posts to look back and see your advice cuz you give great advice.

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Hi, interesting but as a amateur sports blogger, I have had plenty of negative comments.

The pattern over the last 2 years has been interesting because I have a ‘fan club’ of insulters.

It might be more true of or a feature of sport blogging per se, but I certainly don’t feel negative comments are negative.

In fact, on many occasions I’m purposefully ‘stirring’ emotions to the point where I know I’m going to get a lot of ‘flak’.

I’ve discovered that certain people are addicted to negative comments.

I’m happy to have them as regular readers and value even their most cutting remarks.

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My blog does not generate a lot of comments but I laughed at the last negative one I got. Within 10 minutes another reader kindly commented back and I just smiled!! Oh yes, and there was a guy who got a ton of flack over correcting my spelling on one word in one post – nice to know there are readers out there……..

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Smile because someone is actually leaving a comment!!

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Diana:

I may be one of the trolls that you secretly fear and loathe. But really I hope not!

I would like to imagine that you receive my contribution and interaction with as much curiosity and amusement as often as you feel the sexy sting of a friendly spanking.

I look forward to seeing you GROW as a writer and thinker… as much as you have home-grown your social media skills and popularity.

@hannibal666

Follow @hannibal666 to #enlightenment!
http://www.twitter/hannibal666

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Smile because someone took the time to visit your blog, read your post and leave a comment.

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What a great article Diana.
People uses negative comments to become famous because the person leaving negative comment is the center of attraction on the comments section.
I am going to follow these 5 rules.
Really I love reading this article

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Hello Diana

This is what I love about
you. Your honesty and putting
yourself out there.

Making easier for the newbies know
that things will be ok.

Thanks for being you
Bonnie

http://twitter.com/bonniessquires

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Wonderful. I’ve also learned that there’s more than meets the eye to a negative comment. I recently blogged on a really positive, healthy topic and was struck dumb by the defensive reaction of some readers. Looking at it from another angle, I realise I had hit a sore spot with these readers, ie: they were NOT actioning these positive, healthy ideals into their lives and it hurt. Although the comments were frustrating, unfounded and hurtful, it made me look at the negative comments in a whole new light and made me feel proud to know I was personally doing well in that particular area.

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Good post. I think leave a moments is a good beavhior, because it reflects we respect the bloggers’ labor. And we can know each other at the same time. It’s a wonderful thing. Air Jordan

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Thank you very much, Diana. I have been looking for an article like this. I tend to get upset if I get a negative response to an article Ive written, even though I have thankfully never got any really nasty ones, but it’s bound to happen sometimes, and there are bound to be people who disagree with you. I will have to get over this if I want to become a professional writer!! Will save the article and will re-tweet. If you ever feel like doing a follow-up post, it would be most gratefully received!:D

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Positive or negative comments mean that at least someone is paying attention and taking the time to read, even if they disagree. Controversy is always great publicity too!

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I find it amazing that so many of my clients worry about allowing people to make comments on their website. They haven’t yet grasped the point that it is in their interest to join in a conversation that could actually make things better for their customers. I guess there is still a lot of fear around and perhaps the thing that’s missing is that the sites that get the negative comment can respond back … brilliant for PR in face. So thanks, this was a very timely post Diana. Linda

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Hello Diana

It may seem a little odd but from the get go I saw the negative comments as positive for me it meant some one was reading. This was before I utilised the services of Akismet and needed to trawl through everything. In the midst of a sea of spam a real comment was welcome. I’m not a prolific writer. Though some of the Spam is good cause for entertainment too.

As the Lady said “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Eleanor Roosevelt,

I enjoy your blog, a number of people I communicate with on twitter appear to follow it too.

Keep up the variety

Deirdre

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Hi Diana,
I’ve just come across your posts, and would just like to echo who so many have said: plain, good-old common sense is what you’re speaking.
One thing you haven’t written (or I haven’t found it yet), but which speaks volumes is how important the photo by the side of your posts / comments is.

Your photo is beautiful. It radiates openness, friendliness, non-conflict, joy and humility, and gives credibility to the words it supports.
Good job. I hope to read more of your pearls of wisdom soon.

Regards,
James

ps. just checked before posting, and maybe I should change my gravatar – I think you may have just taught me a lesson. What do you think?!

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Diana Adams Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at 3:35 pm

James, I had to jump in here to respond to your comment because you made me laugh… umm… yeah, I think you taught yourself a lesson with that one. hahaha

I truly appreciate your kind words and wanted to thank you for stopping by our blog today! Best wishes to you.

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